International Women’s Day often feels like a whirlwind of floral graphics and "girl boss" quotes. But if we pause and take a deep breath, we know it’s about something much deeper than a hashtag. It’s about the quiet, fierce, and intentional way women hold the world together.
When I look at the state of things today including the noise, the division, the sheer exhaustion we’re all carrying I don’t think the answer is more "hustle" or louder voices. I think the answer is matriarchy.
Now before you roll your eyes or dismiss this idea let’s talk about what matriarchy could look like in 2026. To me, matriarchy isn’t about power over others; it’s about the power of protection and gentle leadership. Protecting, nurturing and supporting children is at the center of matriarchal societies.
As women, we are often the primary protectors of our homes, our children, and our communities. We lead with an intention that is rooted in empathy. We don’t just "manage" schedules; we nurture souls. We don’t just "fix" problems; we hold space for the feelings behind them. You have been doing this. When you clean up a scraped knee you are also wiping up tears, providing love and encouragement.
This gentle leadership, the kind that prioritizes connection over ego, is exactly what the world needs right now. Whether you are leading a boardroom, a classroom, or a toddler who refuses to put on shoes, your ability to lead with heart is a revolutionary act. It's exactly what the world needs right now, but it can also be profoundly exhausting. We spend so much time being the supporters of everyone else’s peace that we often forego taking care of ourselves. We’ve been told that "strength" means carrying the invisible load without complaining. I’m here to tell you as a doctor, a woman, and a peer: That is a (stupid!) lie.
If we want to continue the work of creating a better world, we have to stop treating our mental health like a second thought. You have my full permission (not that you need it, but sometimes it helps to hear it) to seek out taking care of yourself. This could be time with a friend to commiserate, adjusting your schedule to allow for a morning walk before taking meetings, to go to the restroom by yourself, or even seeking out therapy for yourself.
Therapy isn't a sign that you're "failing" at the mental load! Therapy is a tool that allows you to carry it sustainably. It’s the space where you get to be the one who is seen and heard, so you don’t pour from an empty cup.
Every week we at RPC meet to ensure we are collectively aligned on the best ways to support the women (and men too!) in our community. This is something we have worked really hard to do. We have been very intentional about creating a space where women can walk through the door and immediately feel supported and empowered. We know the unique pressures you face because we face them, too. We’ve built a place where you can feel safe and seen.
This International Women's Day I encourage you to lean into your role as a matriarch, whatever that looks like for you. Lead with intention. Protect those you love. But please, include yourself in that circle of protection.
Who told you that your needs come last? Who profits when you are too burnt out to advocate for yourself?
This year, celebrate by choosing you. Whether it’s booking that first therapy session or simply taking ten minutes to breathe in the silence, remember: you hold within you the foundation of a better, kinder, more supported world.
Wishing you a day of peace and empowerment.
-Dr. Haynes
